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constanceI've been kind of quiet lately because I've been working on a Mother's Day present for my sentimental mother. It is a homemade project, a biggish one, which I am calling "One Hundred Letters." I've bought a photo album, the kind with plastic pockets for photos, and in each pocket I will put one letter, a story of us. I think my mother will love it, but I am having a moment of crisis because I can't decide on something, and I want you to help me.
So these letters, they are memories and impressions of my childhood and adulthood from the daughter perspective of a mother-daughter relationship. I was lucky to have had a engaged and committed parents, so I have tons of stories--more than enough to make it to a hundred, no matter what--but I'm not sure whether to include good stories and uncomfortable ones, or only stick to the good ones.
Now, I'm not talking about traumas, or family skeletons. I know that a mother's day present is not the place to talk about the worst moments of either of our lives. And I wouldn't include anything uncomfortable that didn't have something of redeeming value in it; I'm only talking about the things that might not reflect one or another of us--or either of us--in the rosiest light. The time I threw a candle at my mother. The time she forgot my brother at a gas station (BEFORE YOU CALL THE POLICE THERE IS A GOOD EXPLANATION FOR THIS I PROMISE YOU).
So that's the crisis of indecision. Should I include the not-so-good stuff with the good? What do you think?
So these letters, they are memories and impressions of my childhood and adulthood from the daughter perspective of a mother-daughter relationship. I was lucky to have had a engaged and committed parents, so I have tons of stories--more than enough to make it to a hundred, no matter what--but I'm not sure whether to include good stories and uncomfortable ones, or only stick to the good ones.
Now, I'm not talking about traumas, or family skeletons. I know that a mother's day present is not the place to talk about the worst moments of either of our lives. And I wouldn't include anything uncomfortable that didn't have something of redeeming value in it; I'm only talking about the things that might not reflect one or another of us--or either of us--in the rosiest light. The time I threw a candle at my mother. The time she forgot my brother at a gas station (BEFORE YOU CALL THE POLICE THERE IS A GOOD EXPLANATION FOR THIS I PROMISE YOU).
So that's the crisis of indecision. Should I include the not-so-good stuff with the good? What do you think?
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Date: 2005-05-06 05:50 am (UTC)Also I just got home from seeing my boyfriend John Darnielle (<3!) and I haven't even BEGUN to pack!
AM I FUCKED OR WHAT!??!?!?!?!
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Date: 2005-05-06 12:42 pm (UTC)PACK NOW OR YOU WILL END UP WITH THIRTY PAIRS OF PINK SOCKS AND NO UNDERWEAR AND THREE TUBES OF MASCARA BUT NO SHOES.
PACK PACK PACK
(Or possibly you are all done by now!)
And you have an excellent point in re the subconscious passive-aggressiveness, which is a famously unbearable trait of mine. I promise I will review each entry carefully for bad feeling, and take out all the letters that have any.
BE CAREFUL OUT THERE IN THE BIG OLD SCARY WORLD, BOW! <3 :D <3 :D <3 :D