You are such a tender heart and it is part of what makes you such a lovely person. I just want to appreciate you and your concern for this lady, whom you have mentioned before.

I think that the hospitalization may actually give you an introduction to the topic with her. You won't really be allowed to talk to any of her caregivers there because of confidentiality issues, but you can perhaps broach it with her as a transitional care issue. She may also have a social worker available through her hospital stay, which would be a good resource. This may help you strategize about whatever you discover through the council on aging.

Hugs.